Etiquette 101: Proper Church Attire

Some of you might think we are being old fashioned when we say this, but we strongly feel that what we are about to tell you is important, correct and may even save you from future embarrassment:

It doesn’t matter what religion you practice – if any – or how lax the dress code is in your house of worship, you must ALWAYS dress tastefully and modestly when attending a church wedding ceremony. It is entirely inappropriate for wedding guests to show up in jeans, T-shirts, sneakers, sweat shirts or dresses that leave absolutely nothing to the imagination.

For some of you, this is a no-brainer. It’s done out of respect for the bride, groom, their families, their church and their religion. For others, what we are saying may come as a shock.  And no, we are not a bunch of old etiquette-crazed bitties trying to ruin all your fun. Just think of it this way: No one is going to give you the hairy eyeball for looking too nice in church, right?

Emily Post says:

“Be on your BEST behavior.  Be on time, wear appropriate clothing and be respectful during the marriage ceremony. Pay your respects to the hosts, the wedding party and other guests at the reception. And remember – ‘The good guest is almost invisible, enjoying him- or herself, communing with fellow guests, and, most of all, enjoying the generous hospitality of the hosts.’”

Finally, to be fair, the bride and groom should take some responsibility for dictating the day’s attire. While it may be too much to add specific dress code regulations to the invites, that information can certainly be described in detail on the couple’s wedding website.  It’s Ok to help your guests out a little in this department ladies and gentlemen, especially if the result of not asking your Uncle Keith to wear a coat and tie is he’ll show up in his hammer pants and gold lame jacket.

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